Attitude Is Everything In Marriage

An attendee at one of our seminars wrote for Question/Answer time: My wife seems angry or unhappy so much of the time that it’s rubbing off on our kids – even the one who used to be all sunshine. Nothing they or I do pleases her. Frankly, I don’t know if I can stand much more of this. I’d like to save my marriage for the kids’ sake, but I’m wondering.

She’s always a cranky, touchy person becomes a habit, don’t you think? There are both men and women who make it a habit of complaining about their spouses. Most people are what they have been becoming since childhood. Spouses don’t see themselves that way; they excuse their behavior by saying that they are just being realistic, so they see no need to change. It is miserable to live with, we agree. However, Mr. or Mrs. Negative can change. We’ve spoken of this is our save-your-marriage material at our Love Relationship Headquarters. We talk about cranky, critical, ornery people, because we run across them in our counseling.

If you’ve got a Mrs. Cranky wife, we taught our client and students (not wanting to point out the man because his wife was there with him), teach your children the better way by being cheerful and positive regarding everything. Refuse to join the Forces of Negatives. Find a positive to bring up for every negative.

One way is: you can play a game with your children where they are to think of a positive for a negative that you throw at them. “Okay, Kids, it’s pouring down rain and you can’t play outside. Think of 3 reasons why you should be happy about that.” [Suggested answers: Rain helps food grow so we can eat; Rain is God's provision for keeping the earth green and beautiful; You (or we) can pop corn and play a table game inside.]

Rain is just one idea. There are literally thousands of ways you help your children to think in positive ways. Try it for a few months, and if your wife doesn’t catch the spirit by then, tell her that you are concerned about her health. When she asks you why, you can say, “You’re so pretty when you smile. And you seldom smile anymore. The kids are noticing it, too. I want you to be happy. I’ve been reading about that. Maybe you aren’t getting proper rest. Or you may be suffering from low blood sugar or hormones that are out of synch. Whatever it is, I’ll do everything I can to help. It wouldn’t hurt for both of us to have a thorough checkup.”

Be prepared! She may meet your efforts indignantly with a barrage of things you should be doing yourself, or the kids should be doing, so she CAN smile more. If so, do them and take charge of the kids’ behavior! Otherwise, cart her off to a medical doctor who can look for hidden causes behind the sourpuss attitude.

One thing she definitely needs is to study our material and books written just for women at Love Relationship Headquarters. We have a bunch there for you, too, Sir…material that will guide you into being a much better husband and father. Get her – and you – started on them now and you won’t have to write us for help in the future. We want you to keep your marriage strong. Save your marriage is our motto.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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We All Need Magic Moments

Mark became furious when his wife, Mindy, had an affair. “He’s a jerk!” Mark fumed. That “jerk” was doing the things for her that Mark used to do before they were married. Mr. Jerk made Mindy feel beautiful, desirable and loved. Mark loved his wife deeply, but didn’t show it except when he wanted sex. Even then it was nothing much but raw passion. He wasn’t able to save his marriage.

Mindy then went on to marry the “jerk” and was doomed to repeat the same patterns of neglect she had been in with Mark. That doesn’t surprise us here at Love Relationship Headquarters. That’s why we have felt compelled to help people get on a different pathway in their lives.

A woman longs for personal, loving, tender attention from her guy – outside of the bedroom. Of course, she wants that inside the bedroom, too, but if she doesn’t get it “outside,” she doesn’t appreciate what she gets “inside.”

She longs for attention from her guy in other ways, too. Jerilou complained that her husband plopped down in front of the TV the minute he got home for work, insisted that they eat in front of it, and watched it afterward until bedtime. “I hate to say I’m jealous of the boob tube,” she said, “but I feel as if he doesn’t know I’m alive. I resent it.”

Women need to know they count. That they’re more important to their husbands than other things in the men’s world. It does not matter what it is – if something is placed before your women she will feel neglected..

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Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Wealth And Marriage – Do They Mix?

If you want to get a buzz, read about Donald Trump, one of the most fascinating men in history who seems to have a penchant for not caring if he saves a marriage or not. Well, at least, not marriage to a woman. He does care about saving his marriages to the loves of his life – building, acquiring things, and accumulating riches. Brilliant in business, he has built a financial empire worth billions despite several bankruptcies.

This is the most successful businessman in the world today! It’s interesting to us, as marriage and relationship advisers to note that, whereas Trump has been immensely productive in buying and selling hotels, casinos, clubs and almost anything else you can name, he’s been a flop when it comes to producing a lasting marriage with a woman. He’s managed to sire a passel of kids, including at least one, at the time of this writing, with his latest wife who is 24 years younger than he; and he has more than a few grandchildren.

As we noted, his passion is business and making money – not making wives happy. He knows that his imbalanced passions are an issue: “I just know it’s very hard for them [his ex-wives] to compete because I do love what I do. I really love it.”

That reminds us a lot of another growing empire; the media empire of Larry King. King has outdone Trump in the wedding bells arena, though. He’s on his 8th marriage that’s about to crumble – according to latest reports. There is no evidence of his trying to save any of those marriages (although latest reports say he and his wife have decided to make a go of it). Trump, on the other hand, despite any other liaisons he’s had, is only on his 3rd legal hookup at the marital altar.

So, really, deep down; are these men happy? Well, think about it. Collectively, these two guys have had 9-10 divorces. I don’t think anyone would say that all those breakups were friendly. In fact, if we were bettors, we’d wager that none of them were. Was the money and the power worth all the pain the wives, and possibly the husbands suffered – the anger, hurt, and frustration that resulted because neither one of these men was willing to do what was necessary to save at least one marriage? We don’t think so. Have they hardened their hearts so much that they just don’t care? Even if their wives were the ones who dumped their husbands, the way the men have conducted their lives has begged for trouble.

People like Trump and King may look happy on the outside (even though when you look at Larry Kings face during one of his shows, he doesn’t seem happy there either). But if The Donald was truly happy deep down inside, and were at peace with himself and God, why wouldn’t half a dozen successful hotels or casinos be enough? That would leave him time to concentrate on enjoying a loving, close marriage that he would do anything to preserve, and he’d still have some energy left over for a couple more hotels or resorts.

Why would King, who is at the top of his game as a TV talk show host, and given his abominable record as a husband, fool around with his wife’s sister instead of making his present marriage work? Why wouldn’t such men want to be a moral example for their children and grandchildren?

We submit that these guys are not at peace. They are replacing real lasting loving relationships with power and money.

We have no idea what’s in their hearts, but a question in the Bible seems to ring loud and clear: What does it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his own soul? And, we might ask, what does it profit a man (or woman) if he becomes rich and loses the one he promised to love the rest of his life? We’d say: very little.

Although you aren’t The Donald, or probably don’t have the power and reach of The King, have you found yourself married to something else other than your husband or wife? Does your job, sports, internet, hobby or friends mean more to you than the one to whom you pledged your life? Before you say no, ask yourself this: How many times in the last month have I chosen to spend time at work [or whatever it is in your life], rather than being with my spouse? If the answer is regularly, then you are on your way to weakening or destroying your marriage, rather than saving it; even if, on the surface, everything seems fine.

If you or the one you love has chosen something else over your marriage, there is still hope. Your marriage can be saved! At Love Relationship Headquarters, there are answers. Your marriage not only can be rescued, but it can be a joyful, love-filled ongoing affair, whether you have money or not, that doesn’t need to end. We show you how to mend, keep, and enjoy your relationship with your husband or wife. What will you get in return? The type of happiness that everyone wants.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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The Good – The Bad – In Men

There was an article I read about a man who asked an adviser, “Why do girls go for the bad guys?” He was a decent man he explained. His way of treating women was respectful, kind and compassionate. Then along comes a charmer who does just the opposite and wins the girl the good guy is hoping to attract.

It may take a different approach and a different set of standards for a man to look at a different type of woman. The standards of most women do not include a rude, ornery vulgar man who treats them like dirt. Only very insecure females who are a bit on the dense side would want that. Or they’ve been watching too many nasty guy movie characters like Hugh Jackman’s in Australia. Even if they find low class guys that exciting before marriage – if they manage to get them to the altar, which is doubtful – they’ll soon regret it. The excitement soon wears off and marriage becomes a nightmare. Furthermore, these kinds of guys usually want to save their marriages only to keep their women under their control.

The majority of women would die for men who don’t leer, pinch and act lecherous toward them. There is a greater chance of having a good husband if you start with a good guy. A good guy like that doesn’t unceremoniously grope for his woman’s breasts or between her legs when he pops through the door. If it is time to have sex, and he treats her with love, compassion and respect, and coax her passion to rise gradually. He leaves the gross stuff to cave men and beer guzzling jerks. The good guy usually is very much into preserving his marriage, too.

And frankly, a woman who has an ounce of sense in her body will shun the jerk and go for the guy with class, even if he isn’t all that good looking. A woman may find that she is being left by the bad boy she thought was so marvelous; or she might unload him but then she finds out he is hard to lose. Save your marriage? We’d say, get hooked up in a good marriage in the first place and you’ll want to save it. Already married to the bad boy? Then don’t wait until you get dumped to find a solution. We’ve got the stuff you need to help make things better.

Margaret Hardisty, International Bestselling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Why Did She Cheat?

Ethan, a professional man, was angry and calling his wife all sorts of names when he came to us. “She’s having an affair with a guy she met at a roller skating rink. I just found out.” Then he burst into tears. “What can I do? I love her. I want to save my marriage.” He swallowed hard. “I don’t understand. I’ve always been a good husband.”

But he hadn’t been a good husband – not really. At least, not in her opinion. When I had the chance to talk with her she told me, “I put up with him as long as I could. I needed someone who would love me the way I needed.” Although they blamed each other, both were at fault; but in her disillusionment she started looking elsewhere outside her marriage and “fell in love” with the first guy who gave her attention. She initiated an affair with him. That didn’t last, so she was off looking for another guy. Meanwhile their children floundered.

It is interesting that people find excuses aplenty for having an affair. Fortunately, physical adultery still shocks people – and especially if the faithless are famous, like Tiger Woods, or Jesse James, the husband of Sandra Bullock. At this time, it doesn’t look like either one is going to be able to save his marriage. Having sex outside your committed relationship can destroy your family, friends and spouse. Having an affair emotionally or mentally can be adultery as well. People are often caught when they are having virtual sex because the proof is in emails and web browsers. Emotional disloyalty, by choosing someone other than your spouse as your closest confidant and friend, when there are romantic undertones, chips away at married closeness and can escalate into physical betrayal.

When trust is lost, the marriage will follow. It is at that point in time that the one who cheated sometimes realizes just how much he/she has sacrificed, and there is a desire to make things better. Can it be done? Absolutely. Will it be easy? You already know the answer to that. But with the right information, it is a lot easier than most think.

Some of the biggest problems arise when the one who has had the affair is sorry, swears he/she will never do it again and then expects the offended one to forgive and forget and let the marriage go back to the way it was immediately. Forgiveness is only the first part of the process. Time is needed to heal the situation and forgiveness to truly occur. Second, though the one who has cheated often just wants things to go back to normal – they really DON’T want that. That NORMAL was what got them into trouble in the first place.

What they want is a better, stronger, happier marriage. They just don’t know how to get it. The good news is that things can improve. Time after time, we have seen couples who have experienced adultery go through the rebuilding process, follow the steps that they need to follow, and find that they didn’t just save their marriages, they made them much better than before.

Fortunately, it can be done. Time after time, we have seen couples who have experienced adultery go through the rebuilding process, follow the steps that they need to follow, and find that they didn’t just save their marriages, they made them much better than before.

Let us be very clear. We are not advocating adultery in any way shape or form. It causes incredible pain and suffering to everyone involved and makes the process of crafting a better marriage much harder. If you are in a difficult union, it is far easier to start right now, using clearly defined steps, like those we at Love Relationship Headquarters have laid out, to make the marriage you have dynamic and exciting. You can save the marriage you are in now without going through the pain caused by cheating. Find us and all the steps you need, whether you have gone through the frustration of adultery or not at www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Why Won’t He/she Talk?

“I love my husband and want to share things with him; but he turns cold and refuses to listen or talk. Why?”

Consider the following if you are the non-talker and want to save your marriage. (If you are the talker, please feel free to give this to your loved one. No, don’t throw it at him/her… give it with a kiss and say, “I thought you might find this interesting.”)

* Maybe you are angry at someone; or are just mad by nature and that’s your comfort zone…

* Or you grew up in a home where they didn’t talk…

* Or perhaps your mate is an overbearing personality and you feel you can’t get your ideas across…

* Or maybe you just aren’t wired to talk…

* Or you always end up being put down in a discussion so don’t want to risk it anymore

* Or you are feeling sorry for yourself

* Or you wanted to marry someone else way back when and it didn’t happen so you resent the one you are married to now…

* Or you don’t want to accept the responsibility of providing for another’s needs

* Or you enjoy irritating or hurting others (you have a mean streak)

* Or you are punishing your spouse for something

* Or you don’t want anyone invading your private world. You are selfish

Ummmmmmmm – welllllllll – let me say this as nicely as I know how

For the first 7 listed above – SO WHAT! And for the last 4 – GROW UP. This is not all about you. If you desire to have a loving, giving, caring relationship, if you want to save your marriage, then do what you don’t want don’t need don’t care about and start chatting. You have no excuse.

And just for the record you will be in love with the results. There is nothing better than communication with someone else who loves you, unless you’re arguing. If you argue more than talk, you require our books and material at our saving marriages worldwide site. We tell you how to have the right kind of argument.

We know of far too numerous marriages that couples felt weren’t worth saving because one person in the relationship wouldn’t talk or didn’t know how to talk, so we’ve dedicated a lot of material to the reasons why it’s so difficult to communicate in marriage relationships. Our books explain in detail why some people won’t or can’t talk, why some people talk waaaaay too much, and why couples don’t understand one another. Your marriage can be healed and/or made better. It is far easier than you think. Join us and find out how.

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I Forgive You, Ryan

When he was introduced to Hailey, Ryan knew that she was the one. She wasn’t as gorgeous as a few he’d known, but that was all right. She was attractive, intelligent, and easy to get along with. She admired and respected him, too.

After they were married, she fulfilled his wishes by presenting him with adorable children. He was a happy man. His desires, for the most part, had been met.

By the time the children were in their teen years, though, Ryan’s mind had begun to roam. Home had become unpleasant in numerous ways. His kids were noncompliant; he was experiencing financial woes, and he had no friends to speak of. Hailey and he had grown apart, it seemed, and they quarreled far too often.

He wondered if some of his old girlfriends were still around – and available – and he started trying to connect with them again. He also began flirting with various women at work. After a time, he scored and began an affair.

Someone told on him. It always happens, it seems. Hailey went through all the emotions that characterize the betrayed: horror, devastation, anger, self-pity, blame, fear, even hatred. She told Ryan to get out and never come back. His children rejected him, too.

Ryan left, but in the months that followed, he suffered relentlessly. He wasn’t interested in his lover any longer. He just wanted his family back. He went to a pastor and dedicated himself spiritually. That helped, but he would drive by his house frequently, tears flowing down his cheeks.

At last, he began sending notes to Hailey, telling her what a fool he had been. He sent her flowers. He wrote to the children, asking forgiveness.

Finally, he confronted Hailey face to face, fell on his knees and begged her to let him come back home. Hailey said, “No,” at first and then hesitated. He continued to talk and she said she’d think about it.

Weeks went by. Ryan prayed, waiting for her decision. The pastor prayed. One day Ryan got an invitation from Hailey to come for dinner. When he got there, a candlelit dinner and a romantic setting awaited him.

Hailey had arranged to have the children stay at friends’ homes. “Dad and I have to talk about some things,” she said.

As Ryan stood looking at the preparations she had made, hope raging in his heart, she held out her arms and he enfolded her in his, tears choking him.

“I forgive you, Ryan,” she said. “Just…please…I couldn’t handle your being unfaithful again.” That night, they made love in a way that they hadn’t experienced for years. The next day, Ryan came back home.

He does everything he can – on a daily basis – to make her feel loved, cherished and secure. He transforms his sexual desires into lovemaking desires. He never ever considers having an affair or being disloyal in any way. If those thoughts come, he avoids them like poison.

A wise wife puts her husband first; children second. He is her king – she his queen – and she does everything she can to maintain that status on both sides. She meets his needs. She helps him do what is right toward her and in his life. She affair- proofs her marriage.

Both of them present a strong, unified, loving system of guidance and discipline for their kids who know, from their parents’ love for each other, that they are secure. Relationships stay strong and laced with love.

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Jealousy Isn’t Love – Get Rid Of It!

V:3 I’m jealous of my wife. There’s no reason for it. I know I’m going to lose her if I don’t quit.

Jealousy had gotten the best of Olivia. She wasn’t jealous of her husband, Gavin, but she was jealous of any woman who looked at him. Gavin’s comment to us was, “She’s even jealous when I play with the kids. Frankly, I just want to run, but I need to save my marriage for their sake. If I left, she’s do everything she could to keep me from seeing them.”

Olivia refused to go to a counselor or a psychologist, but she liked our books. Her husband Gavin hoped that we could help her make a change Gary was doing the same thing to his wife. Though she’d never been with anyone else, and although she made sure he was with her when she went anywhere and clearly was in love with the man – he was really jealous. It all came to a head when after church they got into a huge argument because she’d talked to a guy in their small group meeting. It didn’t matter that Gary had been there to see exactly what she had done. No, they hadn’t been talking about anything but the preacher’s morning message. Yes, when Gary walked up, she pulled him in close and put her arm around him.

But Gary’s imagination went wild. He started thinking of all sorts of things that his wife could have been talking about to the other guy during the first couple of minutes of conversation. He demanded to know exactly what had been said, why they were talking and what was said about him. His wife patiently answered the first few questions, but as Gary got angrier, she dissolved into tears, wondering what she had done to deserve this attack. She loved her husband but this had gone too far.

Gavin let his imagination get the best of him. He started thinking of all sorts of things that his wife could have been talking about to the other guy during the first couple of minutes of conversation. He demanded to know exactly what had been said, why they were talking and what was said about him. His wife patiently answered the first few questions, but as Gary got angrier, she dissolved into tears, wondering what she had done to deserve this attack. She wanted to save their marriage, but this was so awful, she wasn’t sure any more.

The root of all jealousy is fear. Fear generates insecurity. Insecurity, in turn, results in possessiveness, and the need to control. Possessiveness and the need to control evidence themselves in jealous behavior. Jealousy will choke the life out of any relationship and can drive even the most devoted partner away, because it creates a prison – not just for the person who is jealous but his/her partner as well. Jealousy does not always turn into abuse but if left unchecked it can. In 1984, a movie entitled The Burning Bed starred the late Farrah Fawcett as the battered wife of a jealous, controlling husband and startled the viewing world. In real life, rock legend Tina Turner, who left an abusive marriage, wrote the story of her miseries in I, Tina, from which the movie, What’s Love Got to Do with It? was made in 1993. If you’re a jealous person, and you want your marriage to survive, we’ll say it as bluntly as we know how – you need to do whatever it takes to get rid of the green-eyed giant. Do not let it take control of your marriage.

Although most jealous people don’t become abusers, some do. In 1984, a movie entitled The Burning Bed starred the late Farrah Fawcett as the battered wife of a jealous, controlling husband and startled the viewing world. In real life, rock legend Tina Turner, who left an abusive marriage, wrote the story of her miseries in I, Tina, from which the movie, What’s Love Got to Do with It? was made in 1993.

Jealousy can show up in the lives of people who otherwise seem strong and in control. They seem to have a need to fasten an iron grip on people, jobs, ideas and attitudes and tighten that grip if anything starts to slip. They can crush the life out of the people and projects they are associated with by smothering them. Learning how to react in an acceptable and reasonable way is the key to solving serious jealousy issues.

Even gentle people can be jealous if they are insecure and fearful. Their jealousy evidences itself in dependency. Others soon tire of their clinging and feel suffocated by their possessiveness, so they find excuses not to be around them. Even the other partner needs to have support to make a change. Envy and jealousy can occur in your relationships with everyone. If you haven’t conquered the demon, you may be unkind toward your spouse’s relatives – especially your mother-in-law. You may even be envious of your husband’s or wife’s successes.

Even gentle people can be jealous if they are insecure and fearful. Their jealousy evidences itself in dependency. Others soon tire of their clinging and feel suffocated by their possessiveness, so they find excuses not to be around them. They, too, need lessons on how to save their marriages. You may struggle with distrust and envy of your siblings, your parents attention to others, and your friends. If you haven’t conquered the demon, you may be unkind toward your spouse’s relatives – especially your mother-in-law. You may even be envious of your husband’s or wife’s successes.

You can save your marriage. Go to www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com. Get rid of jealousy. Our marriage saving material is exactly what you need.

Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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The Revolving Door Of Divorce – Marriage – Divorce – Marriage – Divorce – Divorce – Divorce

Some people feel that if they never live with someone outside of marriage, it’s okay to divorce if their expectations aren’t met and then get married to someone else. Modern culture has created a throw away attitude to marriage and difficult relationships. If the second marriage is a bummer, then how about a third – and then a fourth and so on?

It’s kind of like looking for the Fountain of Youth to search for lasting happiness in that way. It isn’t going to be there.

How many celebrities can you name who have very famous, very public divorces in their past? – like Elizabeth Taylor, a star of the past who was one of the most beautiful women of her time and played in many notable movies. Did she even try to save any of her marriages, even those through whom she had children? Or, if she tried, did her spouses?

We’ll give her this one: She always married her interests, rather than just living with them. To keep herself true to her standards that also meant stealing husbands from their wives. At least that was true in at least one case when she lured singer Eddie Fisher away from his then wife, Debbie Reynolds. Eddie Fishers children have acknowledged that this ruined their relationship.

These days Elizabeth Taylor keeps her love life private, but may have given up the marrying philosophy. She reportedly has been living with a guy for a long time at the time of this writing but now, supposedly, is thinking she’ll take her 8th leap into matrimony.

Then there is the mixing up of marriage and lovers, all at the same time. Larry King, for instance. Still married to Shawn Southwick in his 8th marriage, senior Larry supposedly has been having an affair with his sister-in-law, Shannon Engemann, for the past five years. Similar stories of the rich and famous abound. It’s got to be the rich and famous part of it where he’s concerned, wouldn’t you think? He certainly isn’t getting the women by his good looks. (The latest is that he and his wife have decided to save their marriage – possibly because of their two small children.)

So…are these glittering, wealthy beyond measure super stars happy? Come on. We know better. Truly happily married couples know that these feelings don’t last. So, why aren’t their riches and beautiful partners enough? Why aren’t they joyful continually having one sexual partner after another? The reason is because the human being was created by God to be monogamous. Having sex with someone outside of marriage will always bring turmoil to the soul. Promiscuous sex messes lives up and statistics prove it.

True happiness will continue to elude a person or a celebrity that engages in these behaviors. If these types of individuals are happy on earth by some quirk, they won’t be happy after they leave this earth. Everyone has to stand and account for their lives before God. Last time we checked, He made the rules. The rule says, keep it inside marriage.

Last time we checked, He made the rules. The rule says, keep it inside marriage. To quote an old saying, hitch your wagon to a star – but not a star like those we’ve just talked about. Spiritually they are blind and their sojourn on earth, as wild and appealing as it may seem for the time, is very short. Instead, determine to make your present marriage superb. We show you how to do just that in our books and material at the Love Relationship Headquarters.

Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Should A Marriage Be Saved When A Woman Hates Sex?

Jarod was a client who was done with it and ready to leave his wife. “My wife Christina really does hate sex,” he told us. “At least since our kids were born. Is there any way you can help me so I want to save this marriage instead of hitting the road?”

Christina, at Jarod’s urging, came to see us as well. “I love Jarod but I can’t stand his touching me,” she said. “I know he’s ready to leave, but if it means that I have to put up with his sexual stuff, I don’t care if we save this marriage or not.”

If sex disgusts you – if it’s a bother – or a waste of time – or it hurts – or is repulsive – or makes you feel dirty – or used – or you never experience pleasure from it…you need to realize that your reactions are not normal. There have been many women who lost their marriages because of this issue.

The thing to remember is that people don’t start thinking or acting a certain way for no reason. If you think you’ve gone through all the causes, forward and backward, and have come to the conclusion that sex is still all the things we mentioned above, don’t pass on this yet. There may be one important factor missing that will instantly start the improvement.

So why bother? Because the sexual union between a man and a woman is ordained by God and, if it’s in the right context, is blessed and pleasurable. God designed it to bind a man and woman together physically and unite their souls.

All of these things tell you one thing. Only that sex is important to all of us on a number of levels: emotional, psychological and physical; and is the chemical glue that cements a relationship.

You’re missing out on one of the wonderful experiences of life that no woman should be without, if you reject lovemaking. Making love should be a delight to you, as well as your guy, and though it may surprise you, most men don’t really enjoy sex unless their wives are enjoying it, too. Having an orgasm starts to mean nothing to man who cannot please his partner. It becomes significantly less fun for him too. When we talk with a woman who doesn’t enjoy her sexual relationship with her husband, we uncover a number of reasons. These are three of the most common reasons:

What are we trying to say? Only that sex is important to all of us on a number of levels: emotional, psychological and physical; and is the chemical glue that cements a relationship.

* She had an authority figure who told her, as she was growing up, that men want women for nothing but to satisfy their sexual appetites. There are some bad apples who think this way, but most men do not.

When we talk with a woman who doesn’t enjoy her sexual relationship with her husband, we uncover a number of reasons. Here are three rather common ones: * There was a priest/pastor and/or a parent who told her that, according to the Bible, sex is dirty and shameful, and she should indulge in it only to have a baby. The Bible teaches no such thing. Rather, but rather just the opposite.

Our counseling experience has exposed these reasons and even more. If you treasure your marriage and want to save it, find out why you don’t enjoy sex with your guy and then determine to do everything you can to change the circumstances. We have written a lot about why women (or men) turn off in our books and material at www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com because we know how important it is to a relationship and to the stability of a marriage.

Tell your man today that you need his help because you are determined to conquer this: “I want our marriage to survive, Honey, and I know this is an important part of that.” He’ll be deeply grateful that you love him enough to try, not only to come to the point of desiring him, but because you want to save your marriage.

Tell your man today that you need his help because you are determined to conquer this: “I want our marriage to survive, Honey, and I know this is an important part of that.” He’ll be deeply grateful that you love him enough to try, not only to come to the point of desiring him, but because you want to save your marriage. Your goal will be to like – adore – cherish lovemaking – not dislike or just tolerate it. Otherwise, you may live to see the day when he walks out, never to return. Save your marriage – start on it today.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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