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Lance Armstrong won the Tour de France so many times, despite the bitterness of the French press that tried to discredit him time and again, that it astonishes us. Cancer reduced him to the weakest he had ever been, but he rebuilt his body and became the unbelievable champion that he is through sheer will to live.

He proved himself to be a champion racer. He did not quite make it to champion father. With several legitimate and illegitimate children to his credit and discredit, he seems to show no remorse, at least publicly, over his apparent failure as a good husband or father.

Nevertheless, champion though he was on the bicycle, he was a dud when it came to relationships and marriage. With several legitimate and illegitimate children to his credit and discredit, he seems to show no remorse, at least publicly, over his apparent failure as a good husband or father. We say that because if he were a good husband, he would have worked on preserving his marriage, and wouldn’t have a bevy of “relationships” behind him. His legitimate children would still have a full time father, and his other children wouldn’t have to carry the stigma of illegitimacy around with them all of their lives.

Perhaps the fact that he was an illegitimate child, himself, that his birth father left him and his mother, and that his mother had married and divorced three times, had something to do with his attitude toward relationships Or perhaps it was his lack of faith as an agnostic. He is quoted as saying: At the end of the day, if there was indeed some body or presence standing there to judge me, I hoped I would be judged on whether I had lived a true life…

A true life? Excuse us? Yes, he was true to cycling. It does not seem that he was true in any way in his personal life. However, since we don’t know the man personally, it could be that he would have been true had his wives been true. We don’t know who was at fault, but if he is like the majority of men, and especially since he had to be gone much of the time to pursue his career, it is likely that he didn’t meet his wives’ and girlfriends’ emotional needs – essential for women.

Every marriage should have, as its goal, love that reaches the arte level, the Greek word for excellence. “That’s easy,” newlywed say when they still have the stars in their eyes. “We’re doing fine,” says the husband who isn’t meeting his wife’s emotional needs. “I’ve settled for less than what I desire,” says the wife who has given up hope.

That’s what our Love Relationship System is all about – showing couples how to reach that level of arte or close to it. Excellent relationships are the ones that stand the test of time and trails. Be willing to put the same indomitable spirit into making your marriage a victorious journey in life as Lance Armstrong has done to become a worldwide champion.

Be willing to put the same indomitable spirit into making your marriage a victorious journey in life as Lance Armstrong has done to become a worldwide champion; so that, unlike him, you can save your marriage and give your children that wonderful knowledge that they have steady, loving parents who will keep things together. We give you the tools and the keys for doing just that at www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com: separate tools both for men and for women. Come join us now for a sparkling future in your marriage.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Healthy Body, Healthy Marriage

Mary had grown up slim. However, her figure tended to move outward a bit when it came to her thighs. Still, she was very attractive and looked good in her clothes. After she’d had three children, though, her body began to move outward all over. She liked the fact that it gave her bigger breasts, but the rest was depressing to her. Actually, she was feeling trapped. Her husband worked 50 hours a week and could not be there for his family.

Her unhappiness began to chip away at their relationship. Although he never mentioned her weight, she felt on the ugly side and took her frustrations out on him. He fought back and when other things began to pound at them, such as huge bills and a job loss, she decided the only way out of the whole mess was to get divorced. She no longer wanted to save the marriage.

Despite her foolish decision, she realized that she couldn’t go it alone . She hadn’t finished her education and at best she could get a low paying job. She was concerned about the welfare of her kids. She’d have to find another man, that was all, and to do so, she needed to lose weight.

Her decisions devastated her husband who didn’t spot the signs soon enough, and once he did, he refused to change anything he was doing to save his marriage. He wanted her to change, not him.

She also found another man and had an affair. The man was a dog, but because she was running from her hurt – and trying to run from herself as well as her husband – she couldn’t see that. The “dog” went his way, in time, and she scouted for another guy, found him – another dog – and in time, he went his way. Meanwhile she filed for divorce, and continued to do what she could to make her figure better. V:3

The question is: Why couldn’t she realize that her overeating and not taking care of her body was part of the whole picture of unhappiness that she was experiencing and that it eventually would result in the loss of her marriage? Why couldn’t her ex-husband see that, as well, and do something about it before it was too late? The weight was a distraction because it was not the root of the problem. V:3

If overweight is a monster gnawing at you, determine to do something about it now so you don’t lose your marriage Yes, it’s a symptom, but getting rid of a symptom can help with getting to the root of the real problems. Problems can cause emotional stress and physical illness and it all can tie in with being overweight. The body is a marvelous machine. Every part of your body is connected to every other part in some way.

Keep in mind, when the ball comes swishing toward your bat, you’re the only one who can be there swinging. Either you practice until you hit it or you drop your bat and trot back to the dugout. You have to do it yourself. This is one thing you must do on your own. We have quite a bit of material on this at Love Relationship Headquarters. And as far as your marriage is concerned, no matter how bad or boring you think it may be, unless it is abusive, it’s worth saving – not only for your sake but for your husband’s and your children’s.

We have quite a bit of material on this at Love Relationship Headquarters. And as far as your marriage is concerned, no matter how bad or boring you think it may be, unless it is abusive, it’s worth saving – not only for your sake but for your husband’s and your children’s. We show you how, not only to save your marriage, but how to make it better and, frankly, exciting. Get started on our materials and books today so your home will be a happy, peaceful one, not one filled with strife and fat bodies.

Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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